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Failure Revisited

3/16/2021

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“You prepare a table before me in the
presence of my enemies.  

You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.” 
Psalm 23:5
 I generally just tried to keep my head above water during this times when I revisited all of the things I had started and stopped over the years. 

When I look back, many times during my life I have found myself pursuing “things” in order to prove that I could accomplish something.  I would take on a mission or a project just to numb the feeling of isolation in our law enforcement marriage, or numb the confusion of our spiritual lives being on different paths.   Pursuing, progressing or trying new things can be a solid part of your growth in many ways, but doing it for the wrong reasons can invite some deep sadness.  In my mind, I defined many of my starts and stops as “failures” and it is tough to get past. 


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Priorities

11/16/2020

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​"Do not let what you cannot do

interfere with what you can do."
- John Wooden



This blog post originally written for
"I Do Part Two"  
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​This year has been a doozy so far! The year of 2020 will be known for introducing a new topic
of conversation that may have otherwise seemed quite odd. That topic would be,
“cancelled 
vacations.”
You may overhear this question as you dine in the parking lot of your local restaurant, “So, what
vacations were cancelled for you this year?’ The answers range from places like Paris to New
York and Scotland to the Rocky Moutains. The facial expressions used by those telling stories
of their well-planned, but cancelled vacations look as sorrowful as if a
favorite puppy was lost in 
the process.
However, some people just shrug and say, “Oh, we hadn’t planned anything for this year.”
Gulp. That should be shocking.

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Why are we walking away from church?

11/9/2020

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​"I see clearly that the thing the church needs
most today is the ability to heal wounds and to warm the hearts of the faithful;
 it needs nearness, proximity.  
I see the church as a
field hospital after battle.  
-Pope Francis

There is an overwhelming message coming through loud and clear; people today are walking away from church.
Could it be that we’re reeling from the 2020 Quarantine that closed churches, prohibited singing and condemned community groups - isolating the believer from any kind of fellowship, so the idea of church naturally took a back seat?
Maybe it’s that we went to church for the reason of “checking the box” for the week, but never attended with any kind of conviction, so it was easy to leave when everything went online.
Possibly, we have some old wounds that are surfacing in our emotional life and we don’t really think church is the place to help fix anything, so we cocoon into safety, choosing a random television show for entertainment instead of researching a pastor’s website for the latest archived message.
Or…you’re a Law Enforcement Officer and you’ve experienced a fair amount of ugliness within the walls of a church during your career. 

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Do Police Wives Experience Trauma?

10/18/2020

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(Edited, originally written as a column for
The Police Chief Magazine, an IACP Publication:  

Focus on Officer Wellness, Educating the Police Spouse)


"Fatigue roughens up the
edges of your nerves;
 it exposes your fears
and your weakness.
-June Havoc

Imagine my surprise one evening while walking down a seedy street in Portland, Oregon with my family, when without control my entire body froze and I began to shudder with fear.  “Linda, let’s keep walking” my husband replied.  I couldn’t move.  I had just passed an alleyway that looked identical to the scene that I had created in my imagination, when hearing of my husband’s shooting many years prior. 

My body was stiff as the words my husband used to describe the entanglement that happened between he and a suspect replayed in my mind and, also seemingly replayed right before my eyes.   The sun was setting and the darkness was brewing,  I could imagine the fight, the bodies rolling around on the ground,  his fellow officer in training and her apprehension regarding getting involved and the eventual horror of the outcome. I was simply paralyzed. 


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Have you considered life after quarantine?

7/18/2020

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​​“Twenty years from now you

will be more disappointed
by the things you didn’t
do than by the ones you
did do.” – Mark Twain
Last summer, we left the comfort of our home and camped in a 21 foot travel trailer for 21 days.  It was supposed to be what we would call “our sabbatical”.  A time of refreshment after my husband, Brian’s, retirement and an entrance into more ministry opportunities

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