“When I stand before God
at the end of my life, I would
hope that I would not have
a single bit of talent left,
and could say, 'I used
everything you gave me’."
I was left sitting in shock after the phone call, wondering what it would have been like if I could have visited her just one more time. I spent days reminiscing about the way she asked questions to help equip me for the current task. Questions that would inevitably prompt me to study, learn and grow - but, also questions to help me delve into the purpose that God had designed for me, and she gave me the confidence to believe that I was capable of living it out. I should have been breathing in the goodness of the wisdom I had received from her as well as breathing out a whisper of thankfulness for the God-given gifts she used to pour into hurting people. But, oh how painful this loss turned out to be.
Marriage is tough, but it can be so character shaping. There are times you want to give up, throw in the towel, raise your fingers in a big “W” ‘whatever’, roll your eyes, sigh and walk away. But, I believe the growth is in the staying. The choice you make now to stay will benefit you in more ways than just keeping the marriage, it will pour into your maturity in ways you will not be able to comprehend until you are a little further down the road. You will just have to trust me on this one. Being mature is so much better than following your whim of chasing “happiness”.
“What comes into our minds when we think about God
is the most important thing about us.”
A.W. Tozer (The Knowledge of the Holy)
My husband retired recently from a 32 year career in law enforcement.
There is so much to be thankful for in this season,
it really could have taken its toll on all of us,
but he came out of this type of career fairly unscathed.
Yes, there were so many scary moments for me,
but for him, it was always just part of the job.
There were so many times during my 30+ years as a police wife that I longed for a "sisterhood" among police spouses. The officers seemed to have a "brotherhood" of sorts at the department and among their peers which is so crucial to their existence. But, there were things I needed to discuss as well with someone who may understand the intricacies of this type of "family career".
"Police marriages can be strained, police families can be confusing and police shifts can leave officers and spouses drained. Putting some form of spousal education in place can help police marriages stand on a more solid foundation of knowledge and hope, benefiting the family, the officer and the agency." Linda Seitz/Co-Founder of the Huntington Beach Police Department's Support for Officers' Spouses group (HBPD SOS)
Recently, I was asked by the International Association of Chief's of Police (IACP) to write an article for the Police Chief magazine to enhance the "Officer Wellness" information in their recent edition. I didn't have to think very long on what topic I wanted to bring to the forefront.
The Ups and Downs of Life...