Our Plan For You:
-Read our book together as a couple. Our book titled, "Officer Involved Spouse" is designed to be a seven week study, complete with journal-type questions and guidance as to the best way to bring up the difficult topics with your officer/spouse. Let us know if you'd like an
email when it is available!
-We would be honored to speak to your department. We will come ready with tips and tools to help the marriages
within your sworn staff. A police marriage that is
better equipped gives you an officer that is better
able to perform his/her job duties.
An officer involved marriage is a very special thing.
It’s an entity all on its own and it stands a world apart from other marriages.
The spouse involved in this police marriage has most likely entered into a whole new,
alien-like world. The officer involved in the marriage has his or her own
obstacles to face when attempting to satisfy both work life and home life.
The career of a law enforcement officer is different from any other job.
Forget the nine to five - the schedules are all over the place. Planning is futile
most of the time because you have no idea when the officer is due at the station
and most of the time have no idea what time they will be home.
All of this causes chaos, confusion and sometimes loneliness within the marital
relationship and the family life. Both the officer and the spouse can strongly feel
these emotions. The officer may even be dealing with PTSD as a result of
many different situations they've dealt with as they worked on the streets.
The spouse could be suffering from Compassion Fatigue; digesting all of the
stories, constantly assessing the perceived risks, being wholly responsible
for home and children's tasks when the shifts go into overtime.
The process of acknowledging all of this in a police marriage is a good first step.
But, working through it and surrendering some of the rigidity is another
story altogether. You can't do it alone. We understand.
This is marital pain like no other. It seems hopeless. We can tell you that
there is hope in each and every police marriage relationship
if you are willing to try with us.
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